How to Maintain your Self-Esteem

 

When we know our worth and who we are, the outside world will align with us.

Self confidence and self-esteem are the essential things for being successful in life. It is something we should pursue actively. Because we cannot control the way people react to something we say or do, we need to build our self-esteem from the inside out.

One way to do this is to come up with at least ten positive attributes. What aspects of yourself do you like? What are you already good at? Keep this list on you at all times and read it each time you feel low.

Look at all the things you have already achieved in your life and visualize everything that is still to come. Be positive and optimistic. Stop thinking negatively about where you are today.

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Take this practice seriously because it can change your life. Every morning and night, say thanks for all you already have and for the unique things that have happened during the past day. You will be surprised how much there is to be grateful for. Even when life seems down-in-the-dumps, you can be grateful for being alive, having a roof over your head, enough food to eat, clean water to drink, etc. We take things for granted but we have so much already.

Set smart goals for yourself. Start by writing your goals, dreams, and desires down. Do this in as much detail as possible. Next, determine their priority and start working on your biggest goal. Break it down into small achievable steps. Go through that list every single day until it becomes a daily habit. Make sure to cross off and celebrate each time you meet a goal.

Don’t wait to see when something will happen, be proactive, make things happen. Imagine what it will be like when you have achieved what you want and allow this to fuel your motivation and determination. Tell other people about your plans so they can hold you accountable.

Helping other people feel good about themselves will bolster your confidence. Making each person feel that he/she is significant will bring forth amazing results in your life and theirs.

Sometimes it helps to improve your circle of influence. By joining social clubs, organizations or business networks, you are likely to find successful, confident people. Mixing with the right people and establishing good social contacts can give you assurance.

Hobbies or sports can increase your self-confidence. It’s all about finding balance in life. Also, it can help you keep your health strong. It’s the foundation for a sound body and a clear mind. Not having health problems and feeling good, plays a significant part in your self-esteem and gaining balance in life.

Failures and disappointments often result in low self-esteem. Learn from your failures. When we don’t achieve our goals, we get frustrated and can get negative about our capabilities. This does not help. The difference between winners and losers is the speed at which they can get up and learn from their failures. It’s important to know that failures are part of life. The best way to overcome them is by learning the lessons they offer us.

A coach or mentor can be help. Also, involving yourself in positive atmospheres such as those of self-improvement seminars can help you find purpose and gain self-esteem and feel confident. Reading self-help books and listening to audio programs helps. However, the most successful method is coaching as it gives you someone who holds you accountable.

I’ve been a believer in self-help for as long as I can remember and can attest to the fact that they do, indeed, work. We are living in a complicated world. However, these days, there are so many sources available. Surely there is one that will work for you. Why not give it a try?