The Reinvention Artist

Do you ever feel like you must remold your life to fit in with our fast-paced modern world? I do.

We are living in an era of constant change. Whether it’s technology, work, or even politics, the ground seems to be constantly shifting beneath our feet. We seem to have to face new challenges daily, and we have to continuously adapt if we want to be successful.

It’s clear that the world is not going to adapt to us — so it’s time for us to start adapting to it.

One of the ways to adapt is to avoid letting your degree or job title define you.

It may surprise you to know that the latest projects Google is working on as a company are not search related at all. They are working on building an automated car, developing a bracelet to cure cancer and connecting remote areas to Wi-Fi through stratospheric balloons.

Some of history’s most famous people have also been the most creative. Pablo Picasso created 50,000 works of art, which averages at two per day. Jimi Hendricks recorded enough music to fill nearly 70 albums, despite having lived only 27 years.

That’s not to say you need to churn out work every minute to be creative — but high production helps you sharpen your talents. Hence the saying “Practice Makes Perfect”.

The writer Barbara Cortland is an inspirational example of how much you can accomplish if you put in the work. In 1983, she set the world record for writing 23 novels in a single year.

Her passion was for romance writing and she wrote every day. Due to her dedication, she published 723 novels and sold 600 million copies of them.

Find your passion by thinking back to your childhood and practice it every day.

Try to recall your childhood and ask yourself; What did I love doing or dream of doing back then? Which activity made me lose my sense of time while doing it or imagining doing it?

There is your calling. It may not seem practical — even if it was childish, it can still give you a starting point from which to set out.

Your burning desire is the key

Imagine waking up every morning feeling so motivated and excited about the day ahead that you bolt out of bed. Is this your present reality? It’s time to identify the goals and activities that will fill you with excitement to start your day and go after your passions.

Consider the story of Wayne Dyer. To say the odds were stacked against him would be an understatement; he was an orphan who spent his childhood bouncing between foster homes. He was able to earn a PhD in educational counseling and become a professor. Then he wrote his first book, Your Erroneous Zones, which sold a whopping 35 million copies.

At first, his book sold only 5,000 copies, which he considered a failure. So, he decided to buy all the unsold books from his publisher and go on a cross-country adventure, visiting bookstores in person to convince them to sell his book.

He also tried to appear on national television to market his book, but he was rejected by all the producers he approached. But he did not give up; he drove from station to station to promote his book face to face. He was able to take his initial sales numbers and multiply them by 7,000!

What about rapper Eminem? He grew up in a poor family in a trailer park, suffered many tribulations, which continued until he was a young adult with a slew of familial betrayals and bad jobs.

Rather then stewing in his troubles, he transformed them into material for the rap lyrics that would eventually propel him from underground rap battles in Detroit to worldwide stardom, with 220 million in record sales under his belt.

So you’ve identified the talent that is your calling. Mission accomplished, right?

Not quite. You’ve ignited your inner fire, but now you need to keep fueling it. One way to do it is to keep practicing. This takes great willpower. Determination is the key to success; without it, your talent will fade out before it takes you very far.

Every time you decide on your business or career, ask yourself, “Was my decision fear-based or growth-oriented?” Many decisions are made from fear — such as fear of going broke.

When you make a fear-based decision, it usually points toward an insecurity. You might stay in a job you hate because you’re afraid you won’t find another one. Fear-based decisions almost always lead to regret.

Here’s some actionable advice…

Every day write down ten ideas for new ways you could go after your passions. If you get into a daily habit of writing down ten ideas per day, you’ll generate 3,650 ideas in a single year. Each of these ideas represents one possible path you could take toward achieving your goals and living out your passions. Out of all those ideas, at least one or two of them will take you closer to where our want to be.

In today’s fast-paced world, the only constant is change. Companies go bankrupt, technologies become obsolete and governments change their policies. In order to succeed in this world, we need to become Reinvention Artists who master the art of reinventing ourselves in order to make our way through the shifting waters of the modern world and reach success.

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A New Chapter Awaits the Widow

Widow – (noun) a woman that has lost her spouse by death and has not remarried; origin (Old English) – widewe – meaning ‘be empty’.



Finding your ideal partner can be difficult, but losing one is horribly tough – and a common cause of loneliness.  Widows and face living in an environment filled with material reminders of their loved one which may constantly spark feelings of nostalgia and hurt.  Many women are blindsided by this because, as a couple, they didn’t talk about the inevitable.



Not only do you lose the person you love and your partner in life, but your children and grandchildren also lose their father and grandfather.  You must deal with all of this by yourself because the one person who is supposed to help you during hard times is gone.



Those who have never experienced the death of a spouse will not understand what you are going through.  They can’t.



Becoming a widow was the most terrible thing that ever happened to me.  Besides being heartbroken, I didn’t know what to expect or how to deal with some of the things that happened. In the moments when I was most vulnerable, I had to make choices that would have enduring impact on the rest of my life and well-being.



People around me seemed to feel awkward and just didn’t know how to handle the situation.  I felt like the whole world was watching me.  It was as if what happened to me is what everyone else is afraid of, so they just stare and pray they won’t become you one day.



Being widowed is a special kind of displacement, entirely different from any other kind of separation. You can be excluded from “couple friends”, exiled to the netherworld of single aging women and slimy men.  You sometimes almost feel like you don’t exist.  Unless you have another widowed friend, as I am ever so fortunate to have, no one really understands you. You are adjusting to a new and scary life. It’s kind of crippling.  But you learn along the way.



It may take a long time to go to events alone. This was one of the most difficult things for me. I would go to these events and spend a large part of the evening with a big fake smile on my face, trying not to cry.



Still, I was fortunate enough to have friends and family who were always trying to do whatever they could for me.  It made my life a little easier.



It may surprise you to know that, statistically, women are far more likely to be widowed and far less likely to remarry than men. Of the 13 million bereaved spouses in America today, 11 million are women.



As it is, some 800,000 women will lose their spouses this year.  They will be cast out into an unkind, unfriendly world of creditors, misunderstanding acquaintances, and overbearing relatives.



You will never be the same person you were before



This is not to say that you will never by happy again – you will.  But it is a different kind of happy.  You have to re-create your life.  The sadness and anger lessen, and you start trying to look at life in a positive way. 



One day, you find yourself smiling and laughing with new friends. You will feel comfortable going to a party and you will actually have fun. You may even see the possibility of finding love again.  



Losing my husband has become a part of me.  It no longer controls my every thought, but I now look at life in a new way. Not bad, or good, simply different.  For so long, I only wanted my old life back.  I now understand that this is never going to happen.  It was exceedingly difficult to accept, but now that I have, I am able to move on to a new chapter.  My life is my own again.



You will never forget losing the person you love.  It’s not easy, but at some point, you will find a way to create a new life for yourself.



There is another chapter out there waiting for you.



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A Conversation About Quantum Physics

When someone asked me if I knew what quantum physics was, I cringed.  Physics was the one subject I almost didn’t get a passing grade on in school so it’s difficult for me to forget.  Never mind adding the “Quantum” word to it. “Quantum what? Quantum who? Quantum when?"

I’m sure a lot of you can totally relate.

Some of you may already know what quantum physics is and it is an exciting conversation.  There are those of you that may be intrigued.  Would you like to know how quantum physics can do something magical in your life?  It did for my friend Suzanne Adams.

Six years ago, she didn’t know what the term quantum physics meant either.  And once she learned about quantum physics and these 5 quantum tools to catapult her dreams, she blew her own mind.  

She became crystal clear on her purpose. She became a best-selling author.  She created a profitable, thriving business and became a successful thought leader, inspiring thousands of people.  Her life is now filled with joy and excitement. 

What really hurts her heart is that there are so many great people with amazing dreams.  Dreams of transforming lives, travelling the world, earning great money so that they can touch and inspire people with that money.  And so many of these people’s dreams come to pass because they never learned how to utilize the tools for quantum physics.

What are YOUR big dreams? Your dreams are not supposed to die with you.  You’re supposed to live and breathe these dreams.

She says we all have the ability to feel high vibrations – like when you walk into a room and you feel really good.  Everything seems to be right. We can also feel Low vibrations – when things just don’t feel right.

This is what she was talking about; that everything emits energy.  We are skin, we are bone, we are physical matter, but we are also energy.  This may sound a little “twilight zone” but it’s real and it has been scientifically proven.

Our emotions emit frequencies.  This means that, based on the way that you’re feeling and the thoughts that you’re thinking, you send out a signal, an energy that reflects your outer world.  When you tune in to a specific frequency, you receive that frequency.  Just like on a radio when you tune in to a channel, you receive the frequency of that channel.  Every one of us has the capability to embody a frequency that matches your dreams. It’s your job to always engage the highest vibration available to you.

Some of the lower vibrations are anger, grief, shame, fear; some of the higher vibrations are love, joy, appreciation, and excitement.  You’re always going to have a feeling running through you and the more you can manage that feeling to be a higher vibration, the more you’re going to receive circumstances and opportunities that match that feeling.

Suzanne says what is most exciting to her about this is that she’s not only seen it work in her own life, but in thousands of others lives as well by using the quantum tools.

OK, this is the juice!  These are the quantum tools for YOU to start implementing NOW:

Quantum Tool #1:  Turn up your frequency!  The higher the frequency – the higher your vibration, the faster your dreams will flow to you.  The energy you put out will be matched with the energy you get back.  Three easy ways to turn up your vibration:  Exercise, laughter, meditation – there are many more, but these are some that you can use right now.

Quantum Tool #2: Set a powerful intention and align with LOVE or above! As human beings, we’re going to “ebb & flow”.  Create an awareness of where you are in relationship to where your dreams are; if you have feelings of sadness, let them go and then turn it back up!

Quantum Tool #3: Shift your energy to what lights you up! Shift your energy to what you actually desire! If you could be, do, have ANYTHING, what would that be? There are no limits, the sky is the limit.  What is your deepest desire?  What would you be doing?  Who would you be impacting?  Connect to your heart’s desire.  The dreams of the soul. Not what the logical mind thinks is possible. Stay focused on the highest version of your dream. 

This is the magic of quantum physics – shift your energy; shift your focus and become an energetic match to what you truly desire.

Quantum Tool #4: Surround yourself with people and energy that elevate you! Observe your environment, notice who you are hanging out with.  Are you surrounding yourself with people that are making you stretch, helping you leap, encouraging you to “tippy toe”, to be the best that you can be?

If you are, you are around high vibrational people! Stay around them.  Let them energize you, encourage you and keep you running!

Are you around people that drain the energy out of you?  Leave you feeling anxious, tired, and weighted?  If so, be aware of that. 

Notice how you spend your hours in the day.  Are you spending you time having conversations that excite you and lift you?  Or are you spending your hours consuming information that leaves you uninspired and hopeless?

Quantum physics and energy are a 24-hour experience.  How are you spending your 24/7?

Quantum Tool #5: Stand strong for what is not an option for you! Never give up and stand strong for what it is you truly desire. Focus on the mantra – “things are ALWAYS working out for me”- even if it feels like they’re not.  Even if it feels like it’s impossible. When you focus on the mantra and you know that there is a higher plan at play, you automatically turn up your frequency.  Make higher vibration non-negotiable. Energy goes where energy flows.

Would you agree that my friend Suzanne is a “high vibrational” person?  She says she is lit up with the woman she is today and one of the major reasons for that is quantum physics.  Understanding how much power she has, was one of her biggest awakenings.

I will leave you with the words she left me.  Where, in your life, are you going to commit to turn it up right now? Pick a category to turn up your vibration and start it now. Be that in the area of love, in the area of joy, in the area of abundance, in the area of resilience, laughter, playfulness, forgiveness, grace?

You are the only person that controls the frequency with which you choose to operate with.    

Put quantum physics to work for you!

The Minimalism Mentality

What is minimalism? Do you get to belong to the minimalist club when you own only 50 belongings? When you settle on one signature outfit to wear every day? Or when you finally realize that you don’t really need a bed or a couch, that you can just sleep on the floor?



Well, that’s a perfectly fine variation of minimalism. However, minimalism is simply a way of thinking that emphasizes that less is more and that owning more stuff, doing more things, and knowing more people isn’t necessarily better. By removing things from our lives, we make room for what is important.



Now, by most standards, I am a far cry from a minimalist.  I own too many clothes and don’t wear a lot of them.  I have lot of Knick knacks with no practical purpose.  They are just there for aesthetics.  But, hey, it least I listen to the minimalist podcast!



The ways in which I have chosen to apply minimalism to my life have greatly improved it. 



It is important to remember that minimalism isn’t “all or nothing”. Each minimalism change you make to your life is a step in the right direction.  So, you don’t have to throw away a certain percentage of what you own to call yourself a minimalist. 



Here are 8 minimalist habits that keep my life simple, my mind clear and my heart happier.



Habit 1: The Inbox – I shiver when I see people’s inboxes with hundreds of unopened emails.  What if you missed something important?  So, I like to get to “inbox 0” by the end of each day, which means that I’ve ideally responded to or at the very least opened all of my messages and email.  If I can’t get to it right then, I mark it as read and it’s taken care of for now. When my inbox stays consistently in the low range I feel more like “I’m on top of things”.



Habit 2: Clearing Desktop & Downloads – It’s amazing how much these folders can fill up.  If you take lost of screenshots and do lots of research, your screen is full.  There nothing more satisfying for me than to take what I don’t need at the end of the week and throw it in the trash.  When I start the next week with a tidy computer, it’s much easier to find what I’m working on.



Habit 3: Consistent Routines – Time and tweak your routines (morning routine, evening routine) until they are perfect for YOU.  Just because someone meditates in the morning doesn’t mean you should.  The beauty of it is that I hardly have to think about it so, as a result, I have more mental space.



Habit 4: Keeping Papers in One Place – I have just one magazine holder for all of my important papers separated into folders.  I review them periodically to make sure they’re actually still important – otherwise, I toss them!  This makes it easy to find exactly what I need when I need it.



Habit 5: Limiting Sentimental Items – I used to hold on to so much stuff for the sake of memory.  Now I just have 1 bin.  The truth is I’ve never missed anything I’ve thrown away.



Habit 6: The “In Process” Tray – This is where I put the stuff to be filed, items to decide on, sticky notes with ideas or reminders.  It is recommended you use a paper tray or box lid. Everything that doesn’t have a home goes there. This way, I know exactly what I need to work on.



Habit 7: Tidying as I Go – Put things back where they belong when you take a break, before leaving the house, and before going to bed.  This way you come home and wake up to a clean space!



Habit 8: Do Less – Keep your life simple by not piling unnecessary items just for the sake of doing more or doing what everybody else is doing.



So, there you have it!  If you already have 4 or more of the habits above, you can call yourself a minimalist right now.  I hereby declare you a minimalist! Congratulations!


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Serendipity...Not Just Another Word

Serendipity…what a fun and enchanting word!   As a lifetime lover of words I dare say this is my favorite word in the English language. A word that conjures part “serene” with a hint of good-natured fun.



Serendipity, that chance beneficial meeting.  The unexpected conversation that provides just the answer you’re looking for.  The perfectly timed taxi ride that takes you past the movie theater showing the movie you’ve been wanting to see, where you accidentally knock over somebody else’s popcorn, who turns out to be the boy from school you used to have a crush on, and guess what? A year later, you’re happily married.



If you find good things without looking for them, serendipity - unexpected good luck- has brought them to you.



Serendipity was created by a British nobleman in the mid-1700s from an ancient Persian fairy tale about three princes from the Isle of Serendip.  The meaning of the word, good luck in finding valuable things unintentionally, refers to the fairy tale character who was always making discoveries through chance.

A new word was proposed – “serendipity” – to describe this princely talent for detective work. 



You can thank serendipity if you find a pencil at an empty desk just as you walk into an exam and realize you forgot yours.



A surprising number of the conveniences of modern life were invented when someone stumbled upon a discovery or capitalized on an accident: the microwave oven, safety glass, smoke detectors, artificial sweeteners, X-ray imaging. Many blockbuster drugs of the 20th century emerged because a lab worker picked up on the “wrong” information.



If that is serendipity in action, how does it work?  Are there higher powers directing the details of our lives? Or is it just a random coincidence of events?



Is there anything we can do to enhance the occurrence of these positive events that make our lives a little more smooth sailing and a lot more fun?



A study was done in the mid-1990s.  It consisted of about 100 people to find out how they created their own serendipity, of failed to do so.  The qualitative data – from surveys and interviews – showed that the subjects fell into three different groups. 



Some they called “non-encounters”; they saw through a tight focus, and they tended to stick to their to-do-lists when searching for information rather than wandering off into the margins.  Other people were “occasional encounterers”, who stumbled into moments of serendipity now and then.  Most interesting were the “super encounterers” who reported that happy surprises popped up wherever they looked.



The “super encounterers” loved to spend an afternoon hunting through, say, a Victorian journal on cattle-breeding, in part because they counted on finding treasures in the oddest places.  In fact, they were so addicted to prospecting that they would find information for friends and colleagues.



According to the conductors of the experiment, you become a “super-encounterer” , or “serendipiter”, in part because you believe that you are one. It helps to assume that you possess special powers of perception- like an invisible set of antennas that will lead you to clues.



There have been many other interesting experiments involving our energies, frequencies and vibrations at which we view ourselves and how they are met and reflected back.



Still, it’s important to keep in mind that discoveries are a product of the human mind.   Keep in mind, as you go about your day, that “clues” area lurking all around you.  Why not be a “seredipiter” from today on?  Wouldn’t life be more fun?



Serendipity; what a beautiful word!  That overseas trip that was almost cancelled then decided to go on short notice; only to arrive and run into my soulmate when the elevator door opens – priceless and enchanting. And to think that, without such words, we would become dazzled only by the happy accident itself. 



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The Power of Keeping a Gratitude Journal

The word “gratitude” has its roots in Latin grata or gratia. A dictionary definition would be ‘gifts outweighing exchange’.

My first introduction to a gratitude journal was during a work-related seminar. It was highly recommended as one of the best ways to show thankfulness on a daily basis. Although, as a writer, I’ve always loved the idea of journaling and did a lot of it during my teenage years, I have to admit that I had not journaled much in my adult years.

I loved the idea of taking the time to be thankful for the things we have in our lives. However, time for journaling is scarce given today’s busy lifestyles. keeping the journal is easy and involves simply making notes of the things that you are grateful for each day. It is up to you how long your list is or whether you prefer to do it in a bulleted list or paragraph form and how much detail you want to go into. The best thing is that it’s an easy habit to form and after a while, you are left with a treasury of inspiring and uplifting material of your own to look back at.

So I decided to implement the recommendation and get myself a pretty journal (available at most department stores or stationery stores). First, it felt good to be getting something “for me”; I was already feeling grateful for that. I decided to do mine in a bulleted form, reminiscing about my day before I went to bed and jotting down the events I felt grateful for. This proved to be a very personal activity that allowed me to be present with my own achievements.

What I didn’t realize would happen…

I didn’t realize that spending just a few minutes before bed writing down a few grateful sentiments could help me have a much better night’s sleep. By thinking about the positive experiences of the day or reminding myself of what I have to be thankful for, I am much less likely to think about my worries and clear my mind for a good night’s sleep.

I didn’t realize that showing gratitude means I am acknowledging the goodness in my life. By writing these things down, I am able to feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, and build strong relationships–all are a recipe for a much happier life!

Researchers have found that people who write about gratitude are more optimistic and feel better about their lives in general.

I also didn’t realize that I went about my days looking for things I was or would be grateful for so I can write in my journal that night. I had forgotten how much journaling can provide clarity for life.

The gratitude journal is a habit I will keep.

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A Time for Massive Karma

The Corona pandemic is a profound point in human history to shift and to change. I believe a lot of us came here for this moment in time.

This pandemic was predicted long ago in various publications and all agree it will not last long. It’s important to remember that, if you are going though this, it is because you are meant to be here at this time. You are supposed to be here during the spiral back to the basics (home, family, etc).

I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.

This is a time to go within. It’s ok not to be searching for that next job. You may feel like there’s a rug being pulled from under you and you’re in a free fall. You are not the only one. This is not a time to be wasted on worry or fear. It’s a time to be aware, open minded, question everything and see what feels right in your soul.

Its important now to focus on the good; on what can help us in this point in time.

Regardless of your religion, I feel this Easter is going to be special — the day of resurrection could, once again, be a significant turning point.

This is a time for massive Karma. Stay grounded, we will get through this. We will look back at this space in time as a marker. A life changing marker in our lives.

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